Raising a happy, healthy child is one of the most challenging jobs a parent can have and also one of the most rewarding. Yet many of us don’t approach parenting with the same focus we would use for a job. We may act on our gut reactions or just use the same parenting techniques our own parents used, whether or not these were effective parenting skills.
Good parenting helps foster empathy, honesty, self-reliance, self-control, kindness, cooperation, and cheerfulness. It also promotes intellectual curiosity, motivation, and encourages a desire to achieve. Good parenting also helps protect children from developinganxiety, depression, eating disorders,antisocial behavior, and alcohol and drug abuse. But parenting comes in style. There are styles that can be identified among all parents and what we consider as the best parenting style is entirely up to us.
- Authoritarian Style: This kind of parenting entails conforming to standard expectations as well as compliance to parental authority, adherence to rules and following directions. This parenting style poses to be a big problem to kids. Human as they are, they would want freedom and will to learn on their own. It does not mean that being their parents can give us the right to rule and govern their lives according to our sets of rules and preferences. We are parents and not rulers. This will result to jeopardizing our kids’ own personality by molding them into a perfect clone of ours. They may prove to be on the surface but deep down, they are just the frustrated kind of person suppressed by our own self-professed power.
- Permissive Style: This kind of parenting is that of creating a very warm and loving environment with our kids but has a problem of very low behavioral expectation. Permissive parenting poses a great risk to our kids for lack in discipline. We as parents sometimes forget that allowing our kids to do what they like all the time because of our fear that we go overboard will likely result to jeopardizing their attitudes and personalities. They might become impulsive later on because they cannot control their desires and wants.
The ideal parenting there is so far is Authoritative. This kind of parenting creates a healthy, warm and loving environment without jeopardizing any potential traits of our kids because we still have high standards going for them. Aside from that, we also create an environment which permits our kids to talk about their ideals and discovered principles. This kind of parenting will produce kids that are self-sufficient, self-confident, happy with who they are and can reach out to others.