Many parents feel guilty when their one-year is sitting on the floor and does nothing more than look at a fly on the wall. The mothers usually interfere thinking that exploring a house fly is not constructive.
But this is the time when children usually start observing crawling animals. This strengthens their self-esteem because, if a child can be independent it trains his own concentration. This is an important prerequisite for later success in school life.
Once the child is three to four months old, one can (and should) let him think of independent games.
Six important rules that will help:
Rule # 1: Just let him be: If your child is just “busy”, do not interfere. This is true for both older children, and babies. Most babies wake up quietly in their bed and start playing with their hands and mutter to himself. These moments, in which the child is self-sufficient, are the beginning of the independent game.
Tip: Extend to the phase of the in-itself-absorption by placing a colorful rattle, a small mirror, bell or soft toys in the crib or attached to the grid.
Rule # 2: Create an exciting environment , for example, if your baby is in a blanket, put his toys within reach. Crawling children need a safe and attractive environment. Some safety pads for climbing objects with which they walk and climb are good tools.
Tip: Offer toys only if your child is not playing alone.
Rule # 3: Let the young children find his own rhythm game, if they have the opportunity to be alone on a regular basis this is quicker. Provide a calm atmosphere, without TV or distracting voices on the radio in the background.
Tip: Your child does not play alone? Play parallel to (but not with) him and ask if he is getting bored with you, or you have some work.
Rule # 4: Let him go from room to room during solo playing. If you can leave him for a few minutes, leave him alone in the room. You can practice with him from the fourth month of life: choose a moment in which the child is fascinated by something, and then exit the room. Gradually extend your absence.
Tip: It may not be done by your child alone, practice with him. Announce, for example, I am just in the kitchen, going to the bathroom, etc., and keep voice contact.
Rule # 5: Intervene only in case the ball tumbles away, not the blocks- there are always situations in which your child needs help. Still, you do not immediately start helping, wait for a moment. Maybe it can solve its problems itself.
Tip: Sometimes even a little support, such as the question: “What will you do with the ball?” Can help the child play on his own.
Rule # 6: Never expect too much. All children can learn to play alone. But for how long, depends on the type. It is normal that children under one year can keep busy for five to ten minutes, between one and three years 15 to 30 minutes. But it is important that you try. Tip: Use the time for to relax and put up your feet!