In general, children are between the second and third years start to prefer the potty or a proper toilet. You can help your child with this important step, by strengthening his body and his sense of self-consciousness that makes the parting of the diaper easier.
Patience rather than pressure – gives your child courage
When it comes to potty, parents cannot force anything. Wait and watch for these signals:
• He pulls back the diaper when he feels the urge.
• He is unhappy when you make him wear one.
• He tells you after using the diaper.
Now offer your child the potty or the main toilet (put a stool for easy acess) – again and again. If it works, you should know. All children are very proud of their achievement. Some children have problems with the toilet flushing. Conversely, there are children who beg almost everyone to let them press the flush lever.
Requirements to be diaper free:
• He must recognize the pressure in the bladder and bowels, that it is a “must”.
• Starts using his bladder and bowel muscles.
• Should make the connection between Pee-Do and the emptying of his bladder.
• Should be able to postpone action until later.
When is it a success?
• Please do not expect that your child is suddenly clean. This is a development process and takes about two years, during which there are many “accidents” and relapses.
• Do not be a competition who cleans fastest. And indirect pressure hinders the natural development.
• A permanent waiver of diapers can be no earlier than three. At five a child should only rarely do something in the pants or bed. If this is the case, ask the paediatrician.
How to help your child?
• Do not stop or set times on the potty. It is only way children recognize the relationship between need, sitting down and doing.
• Praise your child when he properly implements this connection.
• Do not grumble if something goes wrong. Be comforting. (“Your plan was right, next time it sure works!”)
• Put on clothes which he can remove quickly – like a pair of pants with elastic.
• If you do not mind: Take your child when you go to the bathroom and let him watch you.
• Let a doll or teddy bear to sit from time to time on pot or toilet. This encourages your child to imitate it.